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While I know this post is specifically about Noise Cancelling Headphones, Let me introduce you to a combination of Noise Cancelling, Personalized Sound Profiles, and Bass that you can adjust and feel:
After reading this I have to wonder where the line between useful and entertaining vs. creepy stalker is for the internet.