I would think tying your spouse to the couch would be more likely to result in divorce/open hostility. If your spouse wanted to be at home with the kids, you wouldn't need to tie them to the couch.
Being a stay at home mom is one of the most miserable jobs if you're not cut out for it. People understand a bad day at the office, but they seem to think staying at home with a kid means it's like a vacation day all the time. You can't vent to anyone without them reminding you that you should be grateful to your husband.
My husband doesn't see a problem with it, so couples counseling is off the table. Honestly, he doesn't have to worry about another guy - I don't want someone who is going to make more demands on time I just don't have. But If I were him, I'd start worrying that being alone seems like it would be less stressful than staying with him.
In all sincerity, I think you need to have a serious talk with your husband. You just joined this community, and you're telling strangers that you're considering divorce. I see that as a sign of real unhappiness.
Can you get your husband to take a couple of days off from work and watch the kids himself, while you are out of the house? This will educate him better than any words you could ever say.
You might look around for more sympathetic listeners, too. Staying home with kids is hard work. There are SAHM support groups out there, perhaps you can find one in your area.
Before my son was born, I just backed up everything on my local server, as well as one of my webservers. Since a few of my close friends now have children, we all host local backups of each other's photos. We started that after a friend had a house fire and lost all their photos stored on a local server.
I also do a yearly photobook with DVD(s) for my son. The photo book has the best pictures, with the back story for each. The DVD(s) has all our family pictures and videos worth saving for that year. I send out copies to my son's grandparents and great grandparents.
Wow, it's the buddy system for backup! That's a great solution to the psychological barrier: usually, no one but you can tell you to backup your personal data.
I went to a Christian college where everyone was issued laptops, so several of my friends used a special program to share their web histories with "accountability partners." Then they could monitor each other's porn use, ideally to keep them from looking at any porn. Having backup buddies reminds me of that (without the scary religious suppression of natural urges).
In fact, I might be better at making sure my friend shows me photos of his family than making sure I back up my own. Of course, that's one thing cloud computing was supposed to solve in the first place.
Facebook ads annoy me, because no amount of negative ad feedback seems to stop the deluge of diet, wedding, diamond, or diaper ads. The wedding planning ads are particularly annoying, since my relationship status is set to married.
Being a stay at home mom is one of the most miserable jobs if you're not cut out for it. People understand a bad day at the office, but they seem to think staying at home with a kid means it's like a vacation day all the time. You can't vent to anyone without them reminding you that you should be grateful to your husband.
My husband doesn't see a problem with it, so couples counseling is off the table. Honestly, he doesn't have to worry about another guy - I don't want someone who is going to make more demands on time I just don't have. But If I were him, I'd start worrying that being alone seems like it would be less stressful than staying with him.