My team knows I have it because I am on the severe side of the spectrum, but I otherwise agree with the general take that those who are properly diagnosed are less likely to make it part of their identity or let people know than those who aren’t.

It’s likely that those using it in a self diagnosed way are using it as a way to have an excuse for something they do that is unpleasant.

That said, I have no trouble freely talking about it either. The shame is gone for me now. It is part of my life therefore my identity in some form