While we're on anecdotes, I might as well add mine: I was in an almost 4 year relationship. During the last year I thought my girlfriend fit the mold described above perfectly. She was often downright unpleasant in ways that I never was.
I don't believe that in every quarrel, both parties are to blame.
But in the months after that relationship I realized that I had at least as much of a stake in the pain as she did.
It's a mistake to think that bitchiness is the only thing that hurts deeply. Neglect and intellectual intimidation and letting my body go were my sins and having experienced the first two myself (from another relationship) convinced me that there are many ways to make someone feel worthless.
Given that we men are humans who are as prone to irrationality, is there any reason why women should think better of marriage than we do?
I don't believe that in every quarrel, both parties are to blame.
But in the months after that relationship I realized that I had at least as much of a stake in the pain as she did.
It's a mistake to think that bitchiness is the only thing that hurts deeply. Neglect and intellectual intimidation and letting my body go were my sins and having experienced the first two myself (from another relationship) convinced me that there are many ways to make someone feel worthless.
Given that we men are humans who are as prone to irrationality, is there any reason why women should think better of marriage than we do?