I used to fear that also, until I made a conscious effort to learn (Pharo) Smalltalk and (Racket Scheme) Lisp. I spent so much time and energy on these two. I practised and practised and practised. And then practised some more. After what seemed like an eternity, I looked at other people's code (Java, C#, PHP) and could instantly identify deficiencies and ways to improve them. So my advice: learn Smalltalk and Lisp, and then practise till your gums bleed.