> People see reactions like yours and they develop impressions that software programmers are boring stick-in-the-muds.

That's probably better than being treated as unprofessional.

> The result is that programmers are not treated as people you'd want to interact with.

It's totally possible to be friendly and have a sense of humor without being distasteful.

> do you think that people who write like Zed are going to feel compelled to change their behaviour because you would like them too?

Nope, that thought never crossed my mind.